3 Reasons Nigerian Men Are Loosing Interest In Getting Married

It is no longer news that the number of able bodied and mature young men‎ in Nigeria (both the rich guys, the average guys, the broke guys) who are single and not planning to marry in the near future is growing geometrically everyday. In this short article, I will be revealing some of the factors responsible for this and how the Nigerian society can act fast to remedy the situation before it gets out of hand.

But before I forge ahead, let me remind our brothers and sisters who feel being single mothers or fathers is the best, or those who feel less worried about the growing trend of single parenthood in Nigeria, that happy homes, happy families make up happy society and flourishing nation.

What I am saying is this; if majority of Nigerian homes and families are disorganized and unhappy, then the Nigerian society will also be disorganized and unhappy too.

And statistics show that children raised by single parents are more prone to live violent and rascal life than children raised by both parents in a happy home setting...so Nigeria need more happy marriages, happy families, happy kids and happy spouses for Nigeria to grow and this is where Ministry of Culture and Ministry of Women Affairs need to come in; start preaching against Babymama ideology using educative TV series, adverts, Radio jingles, billboards, social media sponsored adverts, etc.

Now, back to the topic: why more Nigerian men are loosing interest in getting married!

1.‎ Unemployment/Under-employment of male graduates and non-graduates:

How do we expect a young man earning less than 50,000naira in our present day economy to think of getting married Thats suicidal!

What caused this Skewed employment processes in favour of female graduates by HR ‎personnels in Nigerian firms trying so hard to please women empowerment activists to the detriment of our common Nigerian family happiness.

We all would agree with me that since the past 10 years or so, we now see more number of female graduates that are gainfully employed than male graduates, and these female graduates refuse to marry the male graduates earning less than them because to these females; it means settling for less...which majority of them will never dare instead tthey are ready to remain single or become babymama to financially buoyant guys who arent ready to marry them or some even prefer to be side chicks (mistress) to older married men instead of marrying a guy earning lesser than them

2. Civilization and Copying of Western Lifestyle:

‎In our effort to copy the lifestyle and culture of the Europeans and Americans, we have created even more problems for Nigeria, and we have unknowingly killed the Nigerian man's desire to get married.

We all know that the two major reasons majority of Nigerian men desire to get married are:

(i) to have children
(ii) to have access to good/constant food and to have his house domestically organized!

The aforementioned points are the key reasons majority of Nigerian men get married. Now if you remove these key factors, many Nigerian men will never want to marry.

And we are indirectly removing these two factors from Nigerian marriages, how?

Babymama trend has given financially buoyant Nigerian guys the opportunity to have children without getting married, which use to be an abominable act in Nigeria some decades ago.

Also, with the fervent preaching and agitation for feminism in Nigeria, whereby husbands are encouraged to start cooking, cleaning and washing for their wives just as its being practiced in America and Europe, take it or leave it, many Nigerian guys will see no need to get married again because many guys fantasize about getting married just so they can stop worrying about what to eat, who to cook for them or who to clean and keep their house. So when you preach that Nigerian husbands should start cooking and cleaning for their wives, you are unknowingly discouraging more Nigerian guys from getting married because to them, there is no need to marry again. Nothing fascinates Nigerian men about marriage anymore, sadly 

This same feminism is killing marriage interest among American and European young men; they now prefer to be baby daddy than to settle down. Are we ready for that in Nigeria With this trend, I see many pretty, educated, nice Nigerian ladies remaining single for life if we refuse to address this growing feminism revolution in Nigeria.


3. Social Media/Mobile Internet Revolution

Everyone will agree with me that before we had social media; Faceboo, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, etc, etc including nairaland‎ and blogs, couples; married and dating used to have enough time to themselves to discuss, play love game, gossip, etc, but today, Social media, blogs, forums, etc have taken over that time and moment couple do spend together. So with social media....and with

your mobile phone connected to the internet, you dont need to feel much lonely.

This social media and mobile internet revolution have also made it so easy for Nigerian guys to find date at will, making them not to see any need to be committed to one lady, sadly.‎

To many people, this growing trend of Nigerian men not being ready to settle down or not being committed to their female partner like we used to have in some decades ago is not a problem to them so long as it doesnt affect them now but they forgot that every global problem we are suffering from today started gradually some years back.

The more men refuse to marry, the more we have unmarried ladies and the higher the prostitution rate and the higher the number of children born out of wedlock and the higher we have children with no parental care, who may most like end up on the streets as criminals, drug barons, prostitutes, touts, terrorists easy-tools, kidnappers, ritualists and other social vices.

Nigerian government needs to do something to stop babymama trend in Nigeria and to also encourage more young men to get married. We need a massive family values campaign and re-orientation campaign to save Nigerian marriages and family values!‎